Friday, August 14, 2009

missing a step

missionary. side-by-side. no reverse cowboy for you, girl. gravity's a bitch and you need all the help you can get. as you prop your bum up and stare at your toes suspended in midair, you ask yourself the question:

amidst all this baby dancing, am i missing a step?

"maybe you're not doing it right", your callous friends joke. wanna give me a lesson, you internally cry. but the joke's still on you.

whatever happened to the days when sex was just sex? now it's this position, this lube. orgasm NOW. what was once so blissfully simple is now a formula more complicated then the Pythagorean theorem.

and yet, you follow your prescribed equation and dance on into the night...


  1. Hi - just visiting to send you a welcome from LFCA. Sending you much luck with your journey.

  2. Hello!

    My name is Elisabeth, and I am an infertility / repeated pregnancy loss "veteran". You can read a little bit about me and my experiences in my (not very updated) blog: . I am completing a PhD in Counseling Psychology, and my dissertation is focused upon the impact of infertility on marriage. I believe strongly that there is a need for better support services for men and women who are undergoing IF diagnosis and treatment, and my hope is that this study will aid in the development of such services.

    I am contacting you after stumbling across your blog. I am recruiting participants for my study, and wanted to invite you and your husband to take part. All that would be involved would be the completion of an online survey, that would take approximately 20 minutes. All couples who complete the surveys will receive a voucher good for a pair of free movie tickets at a Regal Cinemas.

    Please let me know if you are interested by emailing me at . I have included the criteria for participation below.

    Feel free to pass information along to anyone you know who might be interested in contributing to this study.

    Best of luck to you!

    Member of a married, heterosexual couple
    Both you and your spouse are between the ages of 20 – 45
    You do not have any biological or adopted children living in your home
    You are not currently pregnant
    Either you, your spouse, or both has received an infertility diagnosis
    You have received treatment for infertility in the past six months, or plan to do so in the next six months
    Both you and your partner are willing to participate & have access to the internet

  3. Just wanted to say I really love your post. I think it's perfectly stated and I can completely understand. I am going to start my first IVF cycle in Feb and often wonder is it infertility I have or am I just missing a step in the baby dance. Sometimes i don't know if I am just not getting something that everyone else that seems to be able to pop out a baby is getting. Good luck to you, I realize it's been a while since you wrote but I would love to know where you are on your journey. Drop me a line when you come back to the blogosphere. :)